I’ve noticed there are a lot of pregnant people in Singapore. I never had children. I actually don’t like them. Some children are nice. They belong to other people and that’s the way I like it. This is my ‘stuff’. You don’t have to like my opinion about children because it’s my ‘stuff’. You don’t have to agree with me either. Lots of people don’t. And yet we can still be friends because my ‘stuff’ doesn’t need to effect you at all.
People try to give their stuff away all the time and I don’t accept it. I tell a couple of stories in my book, Raise Your BAR about other people’s stuff. So here, I’ll tell you about my friends with children and their stories.
For years before having children, both of these friends were told that childbirth was painful. In fact, Elizabeth was told that it was the most painful experience she would ever go through.
Did you catch that? It was other people’s ‘stuff’. It was someone else’s opinion based on her own experience or the collective experience of others. That lady was trying to gift her ‘stuff’ to my friend. Elizabeth is a smart cookie though & didn’t accept the gift. Instead, she took a hypnotherapy course & had 2 completely pain-free birth experiences!
My other friend, Helen, had the same sort of experience with people ‘gifting’ her their stuff about pain & agony while delivering a child. She was really nervous & worried about it until one day another lady gave her a different gift that she like much better. This other women came from a different culture and described a much more joyous experience with not even a mention of pain. Helen did her research and discovered more pain-free birth stories. She didn’t have drugs during her delivery for either of her two children. She was thrilled that she overcame other people’s ‘stuff’.
And now both of these ladies give their gifts to others. You don’t have to accept them. It’s their ‘stuff’. It’s your choice. It’s ALWAYS your choice.