Having a Yes Mindset

In the last tip, I talked about trusting yourself and introduced you to trusting in random actions and signs.  Having a “yes mind” is along the same lines, just taking the whole process one more step.

We all have difficult moments in our lives.  Some of those happen in a day, some weeks and some seem to last and last.  Having a yes mind is about accepting what is there and playing with it like a juggler would.  Find a juggler on the street and you can throw him just about anything and he’ll incorporate it into his routine.  The idea is that he accepts the challenge to improve his skill.

Not all of the difficult moments in our lives have to remain difficult.  If we have a yes mind, we can juggle the moment until it becomes something not so difficult.

Ever try learning something new?  Such as riding a bike or driving a car.  Do you remember the beginning when it was difficult?  You either fell off the bike because you were going too slow or too fast and you were out of control.  Or when you were in the car for the 1st time and there seemed to be so many things to remember and to coordinate?  Now, I’m sure you can ride a bike or drive a car without even thinking about it!  It didn’t happen overnight though.

At first when we learn a skill, we are unconsciously incompetent.  We don’t know that we don’t know.  A difficult moment hits you and you didn’t know that you didn’t know how to deal with it until it hits.

As we say yes, we juggle this difficult moment and we then become consciously incompetent.  We know that we don’t know how to handle this.  So, we might seek out guidance from others, our intuition, or God and the Universe.  We try new things.  We act in new ways.  We experiment.

We are still saying yes because the next stage is that we are consciously competent.  We know that we know how to handle this type of difficult moment.  We’ve stretched out of our comfort zone, learned something new and become stronger and more confident in the process.

And while we are still saying yes, we become unconsciously competent.  The next time that type of difficult moment comes along, we don’t even notice it as a difficulty anymore.  We are masters of it.  It doesn’t have any effect on our lives or our flow.  We just keep going.

This is what it means by having a yes mind.  It’s not about “Yes, but…”  It’s just about YES.  Again, having the trust in yourself and in the universe around you will allow you to get through the first two stages easier.  Pretty soon, when that next difficult thing comes along, you’ll barely notice the first two stages at all, you’ll just slide right into being consciously competent.  Because that’s how it works.  As we grow in one area, the ripple effect allows us to grow in other areas we don’t even know about yet.  It’s just how our brain works.

This week’s challenge is to continue to trust in yourself and the universe around you while having a yes mind set.

To your happiness,

Lindley