Like attracts like. This is the simple principle of the Law of Attraction. When you feel happy, like a magnet, you attract more happiness into your life. It isn’t some new age mumbo-jumbo. It’s the way your brain works.
You see, you have receptors in your brain that pay attention to the way you feel and then search through your environment for stuff that matches what you are already thinking & feeling. Have you ever noticed how you can be introduced to a new diet, a new style of car, or a new brand of fashion and then it seems as if that new thing is EVERYWHERE? You might have “seen” that new diet before in a bookstore but your brain didn’t bring it to your awareness because it wasn’t important, it didn’t match anything already there. It’s called inattentional blindness. When you don’t pay attention to something, your brain doesn’t allow you to “see” it. When you are aware of it, your brain notices it.
It’s the same for our feelings. We aren’t going to notice other happy people if we aren’t happy. And if we do notice them, if it’s with a sense of disgust. We’re going to notice (and hang around with) other people like us, people who are not so happy. We are attracting these people into our lives because of the Law of Attraction.
How do you stop attracting what you don’t want? Start purposely noticing the kinds of happiness you want to notice; people laughing on the street, children goofing around, every time someone smiles at you. And start feeling the way you want to feel. Smile at other people just because.
When I go walking or running in the morning, I play a game to see how many people I can get to smile back. I might say “good morning” or just “hi” as I pass people on my route. And then I count how many people respond with a smile or a returned response. The funny thing that I’ve noticed is that people on weekday mornings are MUCH more willing to smile or say something back to me than those on a weekend morning. Why? It’s not scientific but my guess is that people that run or walk my route in the morning during the week are out for the same reasons I am – we are getting ourselves to feel better by moving our bodies. Those who walk just on the weekend, aren’t there for the same reason so my smile or my “good morning” is just some weird lady they saw on their hike through the park.
It’s also a cultural thing. When I lived in Japan, almost 100% of the people who passed me on a hiking trail would say “ohiogosimasu” which is “good morning” in Japanese. I would, of course, return the polite greeting. In New Zealand as well, almost 100% of the morning exercisers would greet me and smile. In Singapore, it seems it isn’t part of their culture.
I don’t let the culture stop me though. I keep smiling and keep greeting because I know that there’s that one person that I’m going to smile at or say “good morning” to that is going to make the decision to do the same and he/she will go out and smile and greet others for the rest of the day (or maybe even the rest of their lives). And that makes my day.
To your improving happiness,